You finally get to hear from me, J again. I'm ashamed its been so long since I've written! I wrote the following post just after Christmas, so I will put it up before I go on to what has been happening more currently:
I've been quiet this Christmas season--just soaking up family time, creative giving endeavors, baby-enjoyment, and delicious aromas and flavors of the season.
For me, all of the Christmas trappings seemed to joyfully whisper the reminder: "This is not last year."
Last year was, as a dear one put it to me, a "very strange Christmas." Indeed it was. For one thing, I nearly spent Christmas in the hospital. Most of my family and friends, even I myself, had been convinced that I needed some serious help, probably hospitalization. I was at the point when I was too terrified to prepare food or drink for myself--I just didn't trust myself to prevent contamination. There were days when Jem would come home to a starved and desperately thirsty pregnant wife, and literally have to spoon-feed me because I was too afraid to touch the spoon with my 'contaminated' hands. I wasn't gaining weight properly and I was dehydrated. But most of all, I was feeling utterly hopeless, often close to hysteria, the thought of death as a welcome escape never far from my mind. My psychiatrist didn't see a place for me in the hospital however, and perhaps if she had sent me to the hospital my anxiety would have simply been un-manageable (in my mind, the hospital was the very most germ-y and dangerous place to be!) So I was sent home, appointment after appointment, with a little increase in medication and the platitude: "You'll be okay."
A week or two before Christmas, a public nurse came to visit me. She saw no other alternative than to send me to the hospital, but Jem and my psychiatrist rescued me from a hospital food Christmas dinner. It was too little, too late. Jem was angry. He felt I had needed the hospital months ago, not now, not instead of family and love and a Christmas at home. So I got to go home, and I saw my husband really angry for my sake. That felt kinda good.
Rather than the confinement of a hospital then, I spent Christmas in the confinement of fear-paralysis. My dear family spent Christmas trying to anticipate my fears and keep my anxiety down.
Nonetheless, I held on for dear life to the Christmas message of peace on earth. I longed--I still do long--for that peace, as all of creation longs and groans in expectation (Romans 8:22). For some reason, God wanted my family and me to feel that groaning more sharply last Christmas.
And for some equally strange reason, a year later He has given me a tremendous measure of freedom. This year I didn't walk miles around the Christmas poinsettias for fear of the potting soil being contaminated. This year, I didn't cry for hours after someone brought home fruits and vegetables. I didn't come to the Christmas meal with my freshly-washed hands up in the air, surgeon-like, to keep dirty water from wrists and arms from running down to my fingers. This year I savored Christmas cookies in my fingers, dipped in milk. This year I sat on the floor with my baby and helped her open gifts. This year I held a healthy, happy, beautiful baby in my arms, gift of God's grace. This year, I really celebrated.
I've been quiet this Christmas season--just soaking up family time, creative giving endeavors, baby-enjoyment, and delicious aromas and flavors of the season.
For me, all of the Christmas trappings seemed to joyfully whisper the reminder: "This is not last year."
Last year was, as a dear one put it to me, a "very strange Christmas." Indeed it was. For one thing, I nearly spent Christmas in the hospital. Most of my family and friends, even I myself, had been convinced that I needed some serious help, probably hospitalization. I was at the point when I was too terrified to prepare food or drink for myself--I just didn't trust myself to prevent contamination. There were days when Jem would come home to a starved and desperately thirsty pregnant wife, and literally have to spoon-feed me because I was too afraid to touch the spoon with my 'contaminated' hands. I wasn't gaining weight properly and I was dehydrated. But most of all, I was feeling utterly hopeless, often close to hysteria, the thought of death as a welcome escape never far from my mind. My psychiatrist didn't see a place for me in the hospital however, and perhaps if she had sent me to the hospital my anxiety would have simply been un-manageable (in my mind, the hospital was the very most germ-y and dangerous place to be!) So I was sent home, appointment after appointment, with a little increase in medication and the platitude: "You'll be okay."
A week or two before Christmas, a public nurse came to visit me. She saw no other alternative than to send me to the hospital, but Jem and my psychiatrist rescued me from a hospital food Christmas dinner. It was too little, too late. Jem was angry. He felt I had needed the hospital months ago, not now, not instead of family and love and a Christmas at home. So I got to go home, and I saw my husband really angry for my sake. That felt kinda good.
Rather than the confinement of a hospital then, I spent Christmas in the confinement of fear-paralysis. My dear family spent Christmas trying to anticipate my fears and keep my anxiety down.
Nonetheless, I held on for dear life to the Christmas message of peace on earth. I longed--I still do long--for that peace, as all of creation longs and groans in expectation (Romans 8:22). For some reason, God wanted my family and me to feel that groaning more sharply last Christmas.
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